Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
Ok, how do you guys feel about gay marriage?
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Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
I didn't feel any which way about it until some prick in the White House decided he wants it in the Constitution that I, as a citizen of this country, will never have the right to marry. Telling me that I will never get the same tax breaks as the straight boys and girls. Telling me that my relationship of 26 years is nothing more than bogus because we're both men. Telling me I'm a second-class, 'you'll-never-be-equal' person but we still want your tax money on time. Telling me I have no rights to see my lover when he's sick and alone in the hospital. Telling me I won't be considered family when that day comes and, G-d help me, my lover is gone.
Trust me, I'm feelin' it now. :x It's not about 'traditional values' or walking down the aisle in some church. Religion is not part of this for me. It's about my fucking rights being taken right out from under me by a group of people who don't like what I am. And this time, 'what I am' = Gay. Before, the excuse was 'what I am' = Black. THIS **** MUST STOP because really, what I am is pissed!
Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
Hey Nicky, I feel you man!
I believe 2 consenting adults have the right to have their marriage recognized by the state.
My bigger problem is the state issuing license. By inference, the state is giving permission for people to get married. I really believe that goes beyond the freedoms and liberties we say we have.
Ironically, if my memory of history is correct, licensing grew out of miscegenation laws. The laws designed to restrict interracial relationships were used as springboards by the states to establish the need for marriage licenses. Thus states could refuse to offer marriage licenses to interracial couples.
Even more ironic though is my sense that the Black community strongly oppose issuing marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples.
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This isn't just a Gay issue.
Heterosexual couples who decide NOT to get married face most of these problems too. What I object to in the UK is that Gay rights have been pushed forward of those heteros who merely decide to live together, just because the Gay community is more vociferous and have a stronger lobby in parliament. As more and more hetero people are deciding not to formally tie the knot, this is potentially a huge problem and already big enough that it should be addressed. In a perfect world, people would get married, but as they're not and this looks like a permanent trend, something should be done. If anything, not having the same property rights etc is more destabilising, as in today's materialistic society, kids and one's responsibilty towards them, come off second best in many a person's thoughts.
The term Gay 'marriage' is a somewhat farcical one IMO, but I'm all for there being formal state recognition of long term/committed relationships under the law, so that everyone has the same property rights, tax breaks, visiting rights etc. At the same time, I am also for the promotion of marriage between hetero couples and don't understand why so many find marriage a leap too far. I suppose there is potential for a moral dilemma in there somewhere.
Indie Release [Level 4]
The gay marriages seem to make headlines everywhere. For myself marrige with its religious aspects is not important either.
Luckily in Finland it is now possible for gays to register their relationship officially and gain mainly the same legal effects as there are in a marriage, it's just not called marriage and doesn't involve the church. I think it was a major signal to the society, though the disputes of adoption rights are still going on strong.
I can understand the feelings of the more religious gays, who'd like to be accepted by church too. But that's another dilemma, concerning what's in the bible etc.
Gold Record [Level 7]
Finland and Denmark seem to be very similar concerning this particular topic. We've had these registration partnerships (ie getting married at city hall and that way recieve a legally binding paper) between two homosexual people since 1989 but official gay marriages in church are still not allowed, which I think is totally ridicoulous. When two people love each other and want to get married, surely they should be allowed to do so, no matter their sexual preferences. It's just a matter of rewriting the wedding ritual to fit gay people as well..how hard can that be?
I have a homosexual sister who was in the same relationship for 12 years and they were never able to get a blessing from the church due to rules and regulations that I believe to be far removed from the reality of today's society
Indie Release [Level 4]
The law for the registration of gay couples was accepted here in 2001. I've understood Denmark to be way ahead in many ways... :roll:
It's very common in here that straight couples live in marital like status, but are in no way officially registered as a couple. Some are engaged, but that's tradition and has no legal effects. There is some, though light, juridic regulation of this free form of living and it's widely accepted/acknowleged by the society. There is no such option for gays. Gays have to register their relationship or else they are officially concidered just two seperate persons, not a couple.
Only some hundred couples, about 700 by the end of 2003, have made their relationship official. In 2003 there were more female couples than male couples registered.
Gold Record [Level 7]
Yes I do believe Denmark was one of the first countries to do so.Originally Written by Sami M
Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
You're memory is right on target. This is the same 1919(?) law the Mass. Governor wants to resurrect to block the states gay marriages. The original intent of the law was to block interracial couples from out-of-state from marrying in Mass. So we've taken 1 step forward, 2 steps backward.
Yes. Isn't it wonderful how quickly we human beings can forget what it feels like to be on the receiving end of discrimination? Most of this sentiment again springs from the Church, but I am not going to go into that issue on the board.Even more ironic though is my sense that the Black community strongly oppose issuing marriage licenses to gay and lesbian couples.
It's so funny. Bill and I met 26 years ago last month. In our second year together he wanted some type of 'committment ceremony' or something. I remember saying what for. I had no desire to emulate straight society in this matter whatsoever. I even dealt with the unfairness of us being a 'couple' and not being able to legally live as one, as long as people left me the **** alone. Now the Republicans and Bush have turned it into a very ugly issue, dividing this country again.
Quinny: I understand what you're saying but it's not the same because as you said: "Heterosexual couples have DECIDED NOT to get married." I can't make that decision. I don't have that choice.
Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
26 years for you and Bill Nicky! Impressive and congrats.
As for the "uniter" and his regime establishing laws opposed to gay marriages, nothing surprising here. This is a one party nation.
I hope to see the day when this shroud of ignorance and intolerance goes away. 8)
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Chart Hit [Level 6]
The block on gay marriages is a big problem in Australia too. Bloody John Howard is trying to put a block on gay marriages over here and sadly the church are backing him too which I think is fucked :evil: !!!!! What's worse, it's claimed Johnny is doing this to get more votes and that is down right disgusting :evil: !!!!! Fair dinkum, what happened to our tradition of giving one a "fair go"?????
John Howard is a George Bush buttkisser because he always does what George Bush says or does, i.e. following George Bush's block on gay marriages, Johnny Howard does the same :evil: !!! I hope Johnny Howard would lose the next election because he is a prick, he is ruining Australia's image of giving one a fair go :evil: !!! I'm voting the Greens next election as that party wants to do good for Australia plus they support gay marriages too.
Johnny Howard says he's blocking gay marriages because he thinks it's not traditional, HAAAAAA :evil: :evil: !!!!! John is old fashioned old fart with old fashioned ideas :evil: !!!! We're living in the 21st century not the 1930s!!!!! This block is a homophobic, prejudice and rediculous waste of space of a law to have, this is soooooooooooooo wrong :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: :evil: !!!!!
Anyways that's how I feel about this pointless gay marriage block, it is homophobic, descriminatory and pointless :evil: !!!
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Looking at things logically, it's not difficult to see why the politicians or the church have taken their stance.
The truth is that the rampant rise of same sex relationships could be hugely destructive to western (all) society. Capitalism is based on ever increasing consumption of manufactured goods. If the balance between same sex relationships and mixed sex continues as it has been in the last 20 years, pretty soon there will be a huge poulation downturn. The signs are already there for all to see. Moreover, because less and less children will be born per capita to hetero couples, the West's finances will be wrecked. There are already signs that our utopia is coming apart at the seams, with less young people in work to help support an ever ageing population. This can only get worse if same sex partnerships continue to rise so dramatically. Condoning same sex 'marriages' would invariably give the whole thing a seal of approval and would promote even more same sex relationships and so the whole downward spiral would continue and gather pace. Just saying that politicians are biased/pricks/homophobic is really not fully understanding the situation.
It's also easy to see why the church is so anti Gay 'marriages'. Marriage, according to the church is partly (but significantly) for the procreation of the human race. Something which by definition same sex couples would be unable to do naturally.
Therefore in a strictly orthodox theological context, how could the church be accepting of it without ripping up the bible?
I would have thought that everyone is for equal rights under the law and it's the Gay's insistance on calling the ceremony a 'marriage' and wanting to do it as a (quasi) religious ceremony that is the real bug bear. If you can't see how offensive that is to many church goers and religions, then it is you who has the blinkers on.
It may well be that homosexuality is nature's own way of exercising birth control for the Human race. It may well be that capitalism will be ousted by an, as yet unknown form of society, within which a large decreasing population can be successfully sustained. Who knows?
A last thought. Is it only heteros that are biased and discriminatory? I wonder what would happen if the boot was on the other foot?
Not homophobic.....just how I see the situation with my pragmatic hat on.
Gold Record [Level 7]
Here in Argentina there is some discussion too. Buenos Aires, DF of the country, has made up a law that condones gay marriage, only that it's not called that, but "legal union". It still has most of the legal rights of an hetero marriage. The church obviously is against it, and adoption rights are a huge issue. There are also some gay people against "legal union" and asking for the full monty (no pun intended), etc.
About what Quinny said above (did you note that he states "IMO" and not "IMHO"? The word "humble" is not on his vocabulary? :) ) yes, that thing about global population going down does make sense, but then right now there seems to be too many people for the jobs at hand. Just look at disemployment rates on any country. I remember that Charlton Heston sci-fi movie, "Soylent Green", with people growing out of physical space to live and waiting for the Government's dose of food. That also makes sense for the inmediate future to be, IMHO.
Our little, capitalist world an Utopia? It seems something went wrong along the way. Remember just when any new gadget comes up (i.e. the PC), somebody says it will make our lives easier, producing the same with less work and more spare time. Then time passes and we work the same time as always (or even more) to produce more, because if the machine can stand that, why not try? And if someone does it, the rest will have to do too, because competition (even of the unfair kind) is the universal law.
That's the main reason of political corruption, the conservative behavior of those in power, and constant infringement of the law. You have the "cloning issue", for instance. As soon as any country makes legal the cloning of humans within their bounds, economical reasons will force the rest to do the same. So political stances tend to be very unstable in Utopia.
Whewwfff!!! OK, I thought too much for today :)
Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
As a gay man I personally have no desire to subscribe to straight people's hypocritical & out-dated institution of marriage. Nobody could be more happy & in love than my partner (of 14 years older) & me, while most straight marriages end in divorce & affairs within a few years or less. No thanks, you can keep your dreadful religious ceremonies & rituals.
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Double Platinum Record [Level 9]
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Interesting take all. I didn't realize the gay marriage issue stretched globally and may have global implications as Quinny implies. Speaking of Quinny, I disagree with your broader argument. That being gay marriage will be a sort of slippery slope where by it would lead to lowered heterosexual reproduction. I agree with some of your details, as in the need for capitalism to have an ever growing consumer base to flourish. I don't believe I or most heteros will be more inclined to change my ways. For example, I wont feel the need to find me a gay man because gays can get married. 8) I believe it it will have little to no impact on the current rates of reproduction as a result.
As for the church, it will just have to adapt to more enlightened thinking. Aside from having it's own issues to deal with (pedophiles for example), the days of the inquisition have long since past, except perhaps for Islam.
I do agree that gays are as equally prone to discrimination and prejudices proportional to their population when compared to the hetero population.
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